Wednesday 28 December 2016

Christmastime

"And it was always said of him, that he knew how to keep Christmas well, if any man alive possessed the knowledge. May that be truly said of us, and all of us! And so, as Tiny Tim observed, God Bless Us, Every One!"

Charles Dickens, A Christmas Carol - 1843

So Sunday has come and gone already. I hope you all had a fantastic day! I ate a lot and drank too much, but you have to indulge yourself a little at Christmas, don't you. It's tradition. It was especially nice to spend the day with all the parents.

I would like to thank everyone for all the lovely presents. I am so grateful that we have such great friends and families. I appreciate all that you do for us, it really does mean the world. The cats are also grateful for the massive tin of dreamies. 

I would also like to share my condolences to all those who have lost someone over the holidays. It is hard at any time of the year, but it's particularly hard knowing our loved ones won't be sharing the holiday with us. It isn't easy, but the love of a good family will get you through. 

Review of a Christmas present - Play That Tune by Paladone.



Play That Tune is a musical guessing game. It includes four kazoos, 50 tune cards and 40 counters. You team up into groups of at least two people; one of you plays a kazoo and the others try to guess the name of the tune. The first team to collect 10 counters wins.

First off we all needed a lesson on how to play the kazoo. 'Hum don't blow!' Thanks Mum! But instructions are included and getting  the hang of it is easy.

This product is available at a great price and is suitable for people of all ages, although it does recommend players should be aged 6 and over due to small parts. The tunes are a good selection of old and new, so you will probably know at least one tune on each card. Although I was surprised that I couldn't remember the theme tune of some of my favourite TV shows. 

On the downside, after you've played through the cards once, you're out of tunes. However you could customise the game by choosing your own songs to play, or having someone write down the name of different tunes and putting them in a hat. 

Pros
  • Great price
  • Suitable for all ages (6+), musical or not
  • No skill required
  • Simple instructions

Cons
  • Out of tunes after the first go

You can buy this game at 'I Want One Of Those' for just £5.99 (plus delivery) by just clicking on the following link: 


Orders are usually dispatched within 24 hours.

I always look forward to a family game at Christmas and this is by far one of my favourites. I would definitely recommend this product if you're looking for something to break the ice and bring everyone together.

4.5 out of 5

Christmas around the world.

In Egypt, Coptic Orthodox Christians celebrate Christmas Day on 7th January. From 25th November to 6th January they eat a vegan diet which is called 'The Holy Nativity Fast'. 

In Switzerland, there are 'real' advent calendars in some villages. Different houses decorate an  'Advent Window' and when it's your house, you hold a party for the villagers.

In the days of the Soviet Union, Christmas was not celebrated very much. In fact Christmas was banned as a religious holiday until 1929. Christmas in Russia has become a small, private and quiet holiday.

My favourite Christmas song.

"Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas" is my all time favourite Christmas song. For me, it brings back memories of listening to a sweet old man named Walter (once a member of a little Nottingham singing group called Stanza) singing this song with such emotion you'd have thought he was there just for you. It would always bring a tear to my eye.

If you love singer/songwriter Sam Smith, then you'll love his cover version of "Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas". If you're anything like me you'll need a box of tissues at the ready.


What to do on New Year's Eve in Mansfield.


  • New Year's Eve Stomper Night at The New Inn 

Free entry and free party poppers, as well as a free glass of bubbly when Big Ben strikes midnight.
Open till 1.00am


  • Family New Year's Eve at Mansfield Manor Hotel

Children's and adult disco, fun activities, hotdog and burger buffet, drinks and more!
£15 per person. Call 01623 452525 to reserve your place
From 6.30pm till 12.30am


  • New Year's Eve Party in Sandy Pate Sports Bar (Mansfield Town FC)

Live music with local musician, Nick Turner, playing hits from the 60's to present day and a hot and cold buffet.
£10 per person. Tickets available from Mansfield Town Ticket Office or Sandy Pate Sports Bar.

My progress

I have now set up my desk in the spare room, and I call it my thinking space. It is an idea, when writing, to have a place to go to that will help you focus, and I'm sat here as I write this blog. 

Thinking space


My cat Storm, helping me get inspired.

Next post - A new year, a new start.
Remember: A new year is on the way and the possibilities are endless!

Sunday 18 December 2016

My Review of Bengal Cottage

My review of Bengal Cottage - Indian Restaurant and Take Away



I was invited out some weeks ago by my sister Jo, for dinner and drinks with friends for a Friday night get together. After a long week at work I was very much looking forward to getting dressed up and having a good laugh with a great bunch of girls. The venue: Bengal Cottage.

This restaurant has been described as a 'hidden gem' and has been given 3.5 out of 5 on Trip Advisor. It is located on the second floor of 4 Burns Lane in Warsop (on the outskirts of Mansfield) and they serve modernised Indian cuisine. The talented chef uses natural herbs and spices to create an authentic flavour which leaves you wanting more long after you've left.

I must admit I'm not very adventurous when it comes to Indian food, so I played it safe and ordered a dish I knew I would enjoy. Chicken Tikka Massala. It was tasty and creamy and a very good portion size, which I struggled to finish surprisingly. The other girls ate Chicken Korma and particular favourite; chef special Tandoori Butter Chicken, which my sister raves about. So if you enjoy a rich flavour to your food it might worth ordering a portion of the Tandoori Butter Chicken and sharing it between you.

The seating space is fairly small but big enough to cater for parties. In fact there was a party in the restaurant with us of at least 12, who were quite noisy, but I won't hold that against them.

The staff are very friendly and accommodating. As one the girls was running late they were more than happy for us to wait so we could order all together. And when we did order the food arrived promptly.

They offer traditional dishes such as Rogan Josh, Madras, Massala, Vindaloo, Korma and Jalfrezi. But if you can't find your favourite dish then you can tell the chef and he'll be more than happy to create it. That's service! So why not have a look at the menu on www.bengalcottage.co.uk


Interestingly the website also provides the recipes of 8 of the dishes on their menu, including Chicken Korma, Lamb Curry and Gobi Aloo. So if you like spending time in the kitchen I would recommend having a go yourself. If you do, I would love to hear your about your Bengal Cottage cuisine.

The bill came to under £50 for five of us. A bargain! However, the bill did not include alcoholic drinks so customers should remember to bring their own. This does mean you can save some money if you are on a budget.

The only downside I could really find to this venue was that there was no disabled access. It is located on the second floor and has one entrance so it should be expected. But one of our girls was using a crutch and found it slightly difficult to get up and down the stairs.


To make a reservation or to order a take away, telephone 01623 843499

Have a look at the menu on www.bengalcottage.co.uk

Opening Hours:-

  • Monday to Saturday - 5:30pm to Midnight
  • Sunday - 5:30pm to 11:30pm

I give this restaurant a 4 out of 5. Disagree? Tell me why in the comments section below.

Jo and myself at Bengal Cottage -16/12/2016

This weeks task - What are my greatest accomplishments in life so far?

Making the decision to pursue your dreams can be both scary and exciting. It is life changing after all. But it is also important to remind yourself of the amazing things you have achieved so far. It can be easy to think you have wasted so many years of your life by putting things off. I am the guiltiest of all. However, everything we do makes us who are, it gives us wisdom and experience, and prepares us for the journey we have just begun. So I would like for you to write down in your own words, what you think are your greatest accomplishments in life so far. What experiences have made you a better person? Have your list somewhere nearby and just keep adding to it.

My progress

Last week I attended my first session with Fit to Run and I have to say that it felt great to do finally something that I have been putting off for some time. Everyone was so friendly and encouraging and it is just what I need in order to push myself that little bit further. They always have a tail runner so if you're a beginner like me, you don't have to worry that you'll be left behind. It is hard work, but it feels so good to wake up the muscles again.

In my last post I shared my first short story; Michael. I must admit I was a bit nervous to share it with you all, seeing how I hadn't wrote anything in quite some time. It took a while for me to get inspired, but after several false starts I finally did it! It has been described as a horror which over the years I have found to be my favourite genre to write. If you haven't read it yet and can spare 10 minutes, give it a go and tell me what you thought. Construct criticism welcome. I have had lots of positive feedback so far and it has really lifted me up. I know I have a way to go and this is only the beginning, but hearing people tell me I am off to a great start is so rewarding. The hard work is definitely worth it.

On 11th January 2017 I have my volunteer interview for a position at Mansfield Library. I am quite looking forward to joining the team (hopefully) which should make for an exciting start to the New Year. It is also a great central point to get news about events happening in and around Mansfield, which I will share with you all.

I was also recently given a belated present from my family following my birthday a few weeks ago. It was a voice recorder. I had previously mentioned how useful it would be to have one for interviews and recording speeches at events and so on, so I am thrilled with it. I can't wait to try it out. Thanks so much for supporting me guys!

Next week's post: Christmas special.

As next Sunday is Christmas day I will be posting a little later then usual, but I will be back! I hope you all have a Merry Christmas. Relax and enjoy.



Remember: Tomorrow is a brand new day full of brand new opportunities. A friend has recently recommended using a lipstick (or whatever you have to hand) and writing on your mirror 'I am enough', and I am going to do it. I hope you do it too. It is not about changing who you are inside, but encouraging yourself to be all you can be. You can do it! I believe in you!

Sunday 11 December 2016

Michael - A Short Story


Thursday. 5:30pm

Outside my front door I desperately search for keys with three bags of shopping at my tired feet. All I can hear is Max, my Alsatian, barking like crazy on the other side and I can't hear myself think.
'It's me you silly dog.' I say as I open the letter box and see him staring back at me. His ears prick up and his head tilts to one side.
Two minutes later, after rummaging in my handbag whilst cursing and muttering 'they must be in here somewhere', the door finally swings open.
Struggling into the kitchen, I maneuver my way around Max with his claws tip tapping on the wooden floor. I let out a groan as I lift the heavy shopping onto the counter and finish with a sigh of relief. 
I look over at Max who's staring at me with his puppy dog eyes and wagging his tail back and forth ferociously. He looks over at his tattered lead hanging on the wall and back at me. Again and again.
'Okay. Let's go walkies then.'  
Max starts barking and twirling around my legs. 'Stay still then.' I say exhaustedly, trying to clip on the lead amongst his excitement.
A few minutes later we're crossing the road and entering the woods on the other side. I let Max off and he aims straight for a tree up ahead, sniffing everything he can along the way.
The air on my face and the quiet nature surrounding me help ease the stresses of the day. I realise again how much I love it here. 
The trees sway in the wind encouraging leaves to fall to the ground. Dead leaves and twigs crunch and snap under my boots as I walk. 
After a while I look back at Max and laugh to myself as I realise he's still sniffing the spot. I shout his name and he immediately comes bouncing towards me with his ears flopping up and down and his tongue hanging out.
'Good boy!' I exclaim as I pat my knees and brace myself for impact. He jumps on me with such force I topple backwards onto the ground. He starts licking my face as I try to make him stop and get myself off the ground simultaneously.
Suddenly I hear a tiny voice coming from behind me. I'm startled and I turn around instinctively to see who is there. I'm surprised to see a little boy stood a couple of metres away, staring at me. I can hear Max quietly growling at my side, but I can't take my eyes off the boy.
He appears to be about seven or eight, and is dressed for school in grey shorts and a shirt partly tucked in on one side. His hair is messy and his hands are black with dirt. I notice some nasty looking grazes on both of his knees which look red and sore. 
'Are you okay? Do you need help getting home?' I ask worriedly.
The boy doesn't answer but continues to stare me with a frightened expression on his face.
'Don't worry. Max won't bite.' I say nodding towards the dog as he starts barking like he's trying to prove me wrong.
The boy then slowly begins to lift his outstretched arm and points into the woods. I turn to look in that direction and scan the area for a second or two, but seeing nothing out of the ordinary I look back towards the boy. He's gone. 
I hear a rustling noise coming from some bushes up ahead and assume it's the boy running off. 'Get off home' I think myself.
Turning around towards Max I see him stood staring into the woods with his tail curled under and his ears folded back.
'Come on boy!' I say whilst rattling his lead and walking away. I expect him to follow, but he doesn't budge. He just stands there and stares at nothing.

Friday. 6:00pm

I pull my front door shut behind me as I head for my weekly piano lesson with Barbara, my next door neighbour. My sheet music flaps about in the wind and my hair wafts in front of my eyes as I walk. 
Before I have even stepped onto her driveway the door is flung open. I see her stood there with a teaspoon in one hand and a grin on her face. 
'I'm making tea.' She say cheerfully. 'Would you like one?'
'Yes please.' I reply gratefully. She grabs my arm a little too tightly as I step inside and shut the door behind us. 
'Go through.' She points towards the living room with her spoon. 'Make yourself at home. I won't be minute.' 
I straighten my hair and walk into the next room. The sofas look well lived in and the windowsill is crammed with plants. It is a very cosy space with photos cluttering the walls and knick knacks taking up every available space. 
I pull the stool out from under the piano and sit down. It squeaks like it usually does and I hold my breath for a second. As always I expect it to collapse in a heap under my weight. But it doesn't. I suddenly remember the day my mum came to my house and rattled all the furniture mumbling to herself how they used to be build to last.
I lift up the lid to reveal the old dented keys, and place the sheet music on the stand. Just as I do, I notice something. A photo sat straight in front of me on top of the piano. A little black and white photo inside a love heart picture frame.
I can't quite catch my breath for a moment as I realise I've seen the person in photo before. The little boy from the woods. It's him. He's stood outside a school in his uniform. I recognise it as St. Peters from the next village over. There's an enormous smile spread right across his face and he's waving at the camera. 
I think about how many hundreds of times I have sat at this piano with that photo looking down on me, and I've never noticed it until today. 
I look back towards the door to make sure Barbara isn't there. Then I pick up the photo to have a closer look. It's him. It's definitely him I think to myself.  
'Sweet little boy, isn't he?' Barbara declares, and I jump out of my skin as she places her hand on my shoulder.
'Absolutely.' I manage eventually. 'Is he your son?'
'Yes.' She takes her hand off my shoulder and pulls up a chair to sit next to me at the piano and carries on. 'But he disappeared a long time ago. 20 years ago yesterday in fact. I can't quite believe how fast the time has gone.' 
'I'm so sorry. I didn't mean to....'
'Of course not dear.' She interrupts. 'It's fine. I just wish they could have found him. It's the not knowing that's the worse part. I went to pick him up from school that day and he wasn't there. One of the other mums said she saw him waiting outside the gates, but by the time she turned back he was gone. 

Saturday. 10.00am

'I have to go back' I say to Max, who's sat watching me drink a cup of tea at the kitchen table. 'And you're coming with me.'
I stand up purposefully and take his lead from off the wall. I grab my coat and clip the lead onto his collar on the way out, heading back off into the woods.
I reach the spot where I saw the boy. I don't feel at ease anymore. I stand there nervously for a few minutes expecting him to appear at any moment. But he doesn't. Max is his usual self and I tell myself that if he was here, Max would know.
I take a deep breath and set off in the direction I was shown. I whistle Max who immediately overtakes and acts like he's excited to be exploring new smells. 
Eventually I come to a path. An old dirt walkway which is overgrown and appears not have had any visitors for quite some time. The fence on either side is old and broken.
I climb through and over the fence on the other side, making sure Max is by my side. 
Looking ahead I don't see anything but trees and undergrowth. The woodland is dense and it's easy to get lost. I start to wonder if I should just head back home, but I change my mind as the photo of Michael crosses my mind.
'Needle in a haystack.' I say to myself as I start trudging through the long grass.
As we get deeper into woods, it gets harder and harder to make our way through the undergrowth. I can't see Max anymore but I can hear him nearby rustling branches and leaves. 
Then something catches my eye in the distance. A window. A building engulfed by the surrounding vegetation, sitting way back deep amongst the trees.
After struggling to make our way through for a while, we finally approach the house in an opening. I look back at how deep into the woods we are. It makes me feel nervous as I realise nobody knows we're here. I look down at Max who's sitting by my side, wagging his tail in excitement.
The abandoned building is a ruin. The wooden slats are rotten and the paint faded and peeling. The broken windows are covered in dust and haven't been touched in years. 
I walk up to the door and push it open. It squeaks and then makes a loud thud as it hits the wall. Inside it's dark and eerie. There's the odd piece of furniture dotted about the room. The walls are dirty and it's obvious no one has been here for a long time. 
From out of nowhere Max barks and runs into the house, and before I know it he's out of sight.
'Max!' I shout. 'Max, come here boy!'
I pick up a brick and place it in front off the door to hold it open and step inside. The floorboards creak beneath my feet. It feels unsafe and with each step I place my weight slowly on the floor until reaching the middle of the room.
Hearing barking coming from nearby, I walk slowly towards a doorway into a kitchen. The cupboards are hanging off the walls and broken pots and plates are scattered on the floor.
I see Max barking and growling at a closed door. 
'What is it?' I say walking towards him.
Then I see it. On the wall. The words 'Michael was here' carved into the wall a couple of feet off the ground. I feel my heart begin to race as I realise Barbara's missing son must have been here, in this very spot all those years ago. I can't help but crouch down and place my finger over his name, imagining him sat with a stick carving his name into the wood with a smile on his face.
'What happened to you Michael?' I ask myself. 
I'm startled by Max who's scratching at the same door with his paw and whining like he does when he wants his dinner. I stand up and try the handle, but as the door opens I can see Max sniffing through the gap and trying to squeeze his way in.
'No' I command as he backs up and looks up at me disappointedly.
I pull my phone out my pocket and press a button which makes the screen light up. Slowly I open the door and use the light as a torch aiming it down onto a set of rickety looking steps. I stand there for a moment considering whether or not to go down. 
But then I hear something echoing up from within the darkness. I place my foot down onto the first step and shine the light as far as I can into the room, seeing nothing.
Suddenly out of nowhere Max runs straight past me and down the stairs, sending me hurtling down. I land in a heap at the bottom, and wince in pain as I feel my knee scratched and bleeding.
A dim light shines down from the top of the stairs and I fumble about trying to find my phone. Finally I place my hand on it and feel a wave of relief wash over me. 
I press the power button over and over again, and pray to God to make it work. But nothing happens. 
Suddenly the door slams shut and the room plunges into complete darkness. I can feel someone breathing on the back of my neck. I'm paralyzed with fear. I can't breathe.
The voice of a child speaks to me and fills my head with an angelic tone saying....
'You can't leave. I won't let you'.

Saturday 3 December 2016

The History of Mansfield

Mansfield isn't just the place I live. It has a fascinating history and the more I learn, the more I want to know. It's easy to take for granted the hard work that the people of Mansfield have put into making this town what it is today. 

There is history everywhere you look. For instance, the Bentinck Memorial in Mansfield Market Place was built in 1849 by architect Thomas Chambers Nine. It is a monument to Lord George Bentinck, who was an English Conservative and racehorse owner. Everything has a history. In fact, Mansfield itself was recorded in the Doomsday Book in 1086 as Mammesfeld and the spelling changed again and again over the years. 


So next time you are out and about, no matter where you live, just have a look around at the buildings. It's amazing what you see when you're actually looking. 

The Mansfield Museum is a great place to start if you are interested in the history of Mansfield town. It was the creation of William Edward Baily, who in 1903, offered a building to house his collection. The present building opened in 1938, and in 1989 a fourth gallery was added and the building extended.  

There are permanent and temporary exhibitions at the Museum. The permanent exhibition shows the social and industrial history using objects and photos. 

The staff are extremely helpful and even let me have a look at their book entitled 'Mansfield 1891 - 1989. Our Mayors, Chairmen, MP's, their descendants and other local leaders'. Inside I found a history of the Mayor Councillor Mrs M.E. Marriott who opened the building in 1938. 

The Museum is also a great place to inspire creative writing. Children can get involved in the Art Beat workshop, or volunteer and learn how to care for the items in the collection. There are so many opportunities just waiting on your doorstep.

If you looking for a volunteering opportunity in Mansfield, I recommend having a look at the roles listed on their website and see if any catch your eye. You can download a volunteer pack, and before you know it, you could be gaining customer service experience and be a key member of the Mansfield Museum team. 

It is free and open from Monday to Saturday, 10am to 5pm (except Bank Holidays)


Events at Mansfield Museum

ArtBeat! - Christmas themed activities.

  • Wednesday 21st December - 10am to 1pm
  • Thursday 22nd December - 10am to 1pm


Reminiscence Tea Room - A free monthly social event for people with memory loss, their friends and families.

  • Wednesday 14th December - 2.30pm to 4pm


Valuation Day - An auctioneer from Bamfords Derby will be on hand to value your treasured possessions.

  • Monday 5th December - 1pm to 3pm
  • Monday 6th February 2017 - 1pm to 3pm
  • Monday 6th March 2017 - 1pm to 3pm


Last week's task.

Last week I made a decision to learn all I could about interview techniques. So I have been looking up all sorts of tips from the internet and making notes, gathering a long list of questions I can ask. My mum, Cynthia, has agreed to be my first interviewee, so watch out for that post.

This week's task

Think about areas in your life that you want to change. It could be a change to your career, health or education. Once you have decided on an area such as 'I want to run a marathon', give yourself a deadline. Then start to break down that goal into manageable chunks, which could start with taking up a new fitness class. A big goal can seem unachievable, so take it day by day.

My progress

It's okay to have a wobble now and then. Sometimes it's hard to imagine that everything is going to be okay. But I have learnt one valuable thing as I have got older. It IS going to be okay. If I have a negative moment, I have to think to myself that everything that has been a struggle has made me stronger. I think to myself 'I choose to be happy'. In life bad things happen and it feels like the end of the world, but a brighter day will come. You can make the day brighter.

After losing my daughter Jessica, I thought I would never smile again, or feel anything but sadness. But she was here, although for a very brief moment, and I'm grateful I got to spend that time with her. Of course there are hard days. I am here and she is not, and for that reason I have to make the most of each day and be grateful. 

So if you are feeling unhappy for whatever reason, it's okay to ask for help. It is surprising how much a good chat can help. 

So this week I have booked myself onto a new Crime Reading Group at Mansfield Library which starts in the New Year. It's free and will meet once a month. They have yet to let me know the date and time, so I will keep you informed should anyone be interested.

One of my other goals is to get fitter. So I have found a beginners running group called Fit to Run that train every Thursday night at West Notts College. It's a 6.20pm start to run at 6.30pm and costs £2 per session. I have been told that it's a lovely group of people. 

I have also submitted my volunteer application to Mansfield Library, so hopefully I can start helping out a couple of hours a week and get involved in the community. 

Step by step. We will get there!

Next week's post - A short story by Kirsty.

Remember: Believe you can and you're halfway there!